I first started podcasting in 2024 and only got through three episodes before I stopped. Later that year, I tried to come back, but I still didn’t move forward.
Looking back now, I’m actually glad things happened that way because I’m wiser, I know better, and I’m doing this in a way I wouldn’t have imagined back then.
As for the moral of the story… I don’t know yet.
All my episodes are going to be one take for now because editing, removing words, and all of that is a bit too much for me at the moment. Maybe in the future, I’ll get an editor. So if there are mistakes, forgive me.
The transcript of the episode is below, along with the screenshot from reporting, and all the necessary things from the podcast.
Thank you for joining me on this episode, and until next time, SEYYA.
In this episode, I share a disturbing experience I had while using a language exchange app and how it led me to take action instead of ignoring it.
What started as a normal conversation quickly became uncomfortable, raising questions about boundaries, safety, and the kind of behavior that should never be overlooked. I explain why I chose to report the situation and how that decision connects to a bigger mindset shift, no longer letting things slide when they shouldn’t.
Screenshot from reporting:
I mentioned my book in this episode: “OCD: The Lies We Believe” A short ebook based on my experience with OCD for 10 years. Get it here
Last week’s adventure was learning the NATO spelling alphabet: Alpha, Bravo, Charlie… all the way to Zulu. I also challenged myself to say the alphabet backwards.
Next adventure: Beethoven. What’s your weekly adventure?
Instead of blocking and moving on, I decided to take it a step further and report. Report who? You’ll find out soon.
Hey, I am Nessa Hagoz, and this is Bathroom Musings.
So I decided to just press record. Stop overthinking it. Let’s go.
I recently started learning Spanish again from the beginning. Hola, ¿qué tal? And I joined a language exchange app. I won’t call their name because it’s not your fault. And I’m also not going to call the name of the country this guy is from. Because men from this country are notorious, infamous for this type of nasty behaviour.
And as a Nigerian who hates it when people stereotype Nigerians as scammers, I’m not going to add to the negative narrative. But I’m going to give him a name. I’ll call him Chad.
So the call connected, and we did the usual introductions. And then he asked if I wanted to travel. I said yes, Japan, by the way. Then he said something might affect my travel plans. I didn’t understand what he meant. So I asked what happened. He told me a story about going out drinking with friends, feeling sick, lying down, and then something inappropriate happening involving the people there.
At that point, I was already uncomfortable. Before I go on, this part is disturbing.
He described being in a vulnerable situation and said things that didn’t sit right with me. And honestly, I started questioning whether the story was real or if it was something else entirely. Something about his tone, his reactions, it didn’t feel like someone genuinely distressed. It felt off.
When I tried to end the call, it didn’t work immediately. And when he continued talking about the incident, it became even more uncomfortable. That’s when I decided to remove the app completely. But I didn’t stop there. I went back and reported him.
Because I thought about it, I didn’t want anyone else to experience that kind of interaction.
Around that same time, I was watching a creator talk about not letting things slide. If something is wrong, address it. At first, I agreed. But then I noticed my reaction was becoming extreme. Like I wanted to challenge everything, react to everything. And I had to pause and check myself.
That’s when I remembered something called post-content clarity. The idea is simple: when something triggers you, positively or negatively, pause and reflect before acting on it.
Ask yourself: Why am I reacting this way? Is this reasonable? Am I taking this too far?
I started applying that, and it helped me a lot. Because reacting in the moment, especially emotionally, can lead to extremes. I even noticed this in a conversation with a friend. He mentioned seeing a couple arguing, and immediately I felt anger, not because of him, but because it reminded me of past experiences.
And I had to stop myself. Because those reactions, if unchecked, can shape how you see everything.
So now, I try to pause. Reflect. Then respond. And honestly, it helps.
Also, I did it. I pressed record and finished this.
Shameless plug: I have a book. It’s called OCD: The Lies We Believe. It’s a short ebook based on my experience with OCD for 10 years. If you’re struggling, or you know someone who is, you can check it out.
Now, something lighter. I like doing weekly adventures. Last week, I learned the NATO spelling alphabet: Alpha, Bravo, Charlie, Delta, Echo, Foxtrot, Golf, Hotel, India, Juliet, Kilo, Lima, Mike, November, Oscar, Papa, Quebec, Romeo, Sierra, Tango, Uniform, Victor, Whisky, X-ray, Yankee, Zulu.
I even tried saying it backwards, and surprisingly, I could.
Next adventure: Beethoven. What’s yours?
Thank you for staying with me. I truly appreciate you. Take care of yourself. Drop a comment and let me know what you think.
I’m really glad I pressed record.
Until next time, SEYYA.
