Before we begin, I want to say a very big thank you to everyone who agreed to share their stories for this episode.
I reached out to people I know, like, and trust, and asked them to record personal experiences that taught them an important lesson. Some of the stories I heard were completely new to me, and they led to some genuinely interesting conversations.
A few people were even kind enough to send multiple recordings for me to choose from. I decided not to alter their words or ideas. What you’ll hear is as authentic as possible, and I wanted their voices and experiences to remain exactly as they shared them.
I’m also proud of my friends for recording in quiet environments—it made the editing process much easier. I tried not to influence what anyone said. I simply asked them to share a story they learned from. In a few cases, I reminded someone of an experience they had mentioned before, and that helped them remember a story they wanted to tell.
Once again, thank you to everyone who contributed.
Enjoy, and until next time, see ya.
This episode features a collection of personal stories shared by different people, each centered around a lesson they learned through life experiences. The stories cover topics such as procrastination, setting healthy boundaries, protecting one’s peace, treating people well, being careful when helping others financially, and overcoming major setbacks.
Several contributors reflected on regrets and difficult situations that taught them valuable lessons about responsibility, self-respect, and personal growth. Others shared how challenges that once seemed devastating eventually led to better opportunities and success. Despite their different experiences, all the stories point to a common theme: life teaches important lessons through both victories and mistakes. The episode encourages listeners to learn from experiences, protect their well-being, and keep moving forward even when life doesn’t go as planned.
I asked my friends to share a personal experience that they either learned something from or had a lesson behind it and they were kind enough to do that.
So thank you to all those who recorded.
Some of the stories I’d never heard before.
I hope you find this useful.
Enjoy and until next time, see ya.
Oh, one last thing.
My name is Charles.
You can call me a former multi-millionaire, a guy who’s had everything at his beck and call, easily right from the age of 13.
Things were always going well with me but along the line, things went sour.
But before then, my dad had acres of land somewhere anywhere from Delta State as a battery precise.
My dad had lots of land which he would always tell me come, let me show you some of this property.
He can never, he don’t know when I’ll leave this and I’ll be like, dad, you ain’t going nowhere because my dad was a very strong man, very healthy man.
There was no way I would know that he could just die at any time.
I felt he was going to even live up to the age of 130.
So I would always tell him, don’t worry when I come next, you can go and show me.
Meanwhile, anytime I’m even in Asaba, it’s not as if I’m really doing anything.
I’m just friends who just come over and start playing and having fun.
He’ll come out and tell me, oh boy, let me go this thing now.
I’ll tell him, dad, tomorrow, tomorrow.
Meanwhile, maybe when I come to the village, it’s mostly on a Friday and I go back on a Sunday.
So on Saturday, he’ll still come and meet me.
Oh boy, can we go now?
And I’ll tell my dad, look, I’m so tired.
Please, when I come next, there’s no hurry.
The land is not running away.
All because I had everything.
I had my own money.
I had my own cars.
I had everything.
I left not knowing that that would be the last time I’d see my dad.
And guess what?
Everything went south for me.
I lost everything.
I lost my money.
I lost my job.
I lost my contracts.
I got duped by people.
Everything, when I mean everything, everything went south for me.
Even to bury my dad was a problem.
It was through donations I was able to bury my dad.
So something that keeps bothering me is where is that property my dad always wanted to show me?
Because it means that there’s money somewhere out there that I have no knowledge of.
Because I kept on procrastinating.
I kept on shifting the days I was supposed to go and see that property.
And it was acres of land.
It wasn’t a small thing.
It was acres upon acres of land.
Till today, I have no knowledge of where that land is.
And I only regret that if I had known, I would have just not drank with my friends and followed my dad to show me that property.
By now, I was maybe having money to sell the property and build houses on it or something.
It wouldn’t have been this bad.
So the moral of the story is procrastination is a very bad thing.
Anytime you have the time to do something, just do it.
Back then in 2016, I had this boyfriend that we were trying to get to know each other better.
We even had plans of getting married and all that.
But then as of 2016, I was a girl who didn’t have boundaries at all.
When I mean boundaries, I mean I could give and give and over give.
I could give my life away.
Let me just say it like that.
So I was in this relationship with this guy.
Mind you, I didn’t have boundaries.
I didn’t even know what it is I wanted in a guy because I was quite young at that time.
So we were in that relationship but due to my low boundaries, the guy had the ability to misbehave and treat me anyhow he wanted and I would still stay.
So fast forward in 2022, I still found myself in a similar situation but this time around, not so similar like the other one.
I did still have boundaries but then I was still over giving like I did in 2017.
The lessons I was supposed to learn from the other relationship which is having strong boundaries.
Anybody that comes against me or anybody that comes in between me and my boundaries, I should be cutting you off immediately.
I was supposed to like, you know, straighten my boundaries, stop over giving, stop people pleasing, choose myself first but I still did not learn it from the past relationship.
So going into this relationship in 2022, that one was worse than what I experienced in 2016 because this time around, I was all grown up and then I saw my ex-boyfriend doing things that I would never tolerate from anybody.
Well, it got to a point I made up my mind that I am done with this circle of, you know, it was looking like my life was running in a circle.
So I had to put a stop to it.
I had strong boundaries.
I stopped over pleasing and over giving.
When you come into my life, it’s no longer what I want to do for you.
It’s what are you going to do for me?
How is your friendship, how is your presence going to affect my life?
Anything I cannot relate to, I don’t even need to talk about it twice.
Once I tell you once and you don’t walk towards stopping or putting an end to that character, I will just walk and choose myself.
So ever since I started choosing myself, trust me, I have this so much peace of mind.
I have self-love, I have self-respect, I have strong boundaries.
I don’t say what I cannot do.
That’s the only thing we girls do.
When you say what you cannot do to a man, automatically he’s going to find himself disrespecting you.
So this is something I know that I experienced.
I learned something big from.
Thank you.
Very warm greetings to everyone listening to this.
I believe it meets you well.
I noticed something about human relationships.
From a personal experience, I have someone in my life that I’ve done everything humanly possible to be at peace with this person.
When I say everything, I mean everything humanly possible I’ve done but all to no avail.
The issue even plunged me into depression and I was really feeling it badly.
So at a point in time, I told myself, as the saying goes, as the saying rightly goes, it takes two to tango.
It’s a quotable quote.
It takes two to tango.
And since I took that decision, I noticed that I now have more peace.
So the lesson here is, there are some persons, no matter what you do, no matter what you do, it’s not just about you.
It’s not just about you.
No matter what you do, I say it again, your mind is made up on how they want to be treating you.
It will only take God’s intervention.
God’s intervention.
Only God can make them change that.
So do the best you can, of course.
Do the best you can, everything you can, you have done.
And after doing all that, just leave the rest to God.
Do not let any human being push you to the point of remaining in depression because of their negative attitude towards you, because of the bad energy they give to you, even when you consistently give them good energy.
Because if you go down and even lose your life because of that, someone like that, people like that, will move on with their lives and nothing will happen.
Nothing.
So the lesson here is, your health must be protected.
It’s not just about you.
After you’ve done everything you should do.
After you’ve done everything you should do.
So it’s a very important lesson I’ve learned and it’s been helping me.
Sincerely, it’s been helping me.
Thank you so much for being a good audience.
I believe you’ve learned something good from this.
Take care.
Hi.
So I’m a stern believer of what goes around comes back around and he who kills by the sword dies by the sword.
So there’s this man of recent, he passed.
He saw rest in peace and the cause of his death was a cult clash.
The same, brotherhood as his caused his death.
There was a fight, something quite unnecessary, something that was not worth it at all because when the whole thing came out in the news and people were talking about it, it did not make any logical sense.
Mind you, the fight was not his.
In fact, the city where he went to fight was not his, nothing.
I’m not putting the blame on the dead here.
But when they sent his cubs back home to his wife, mind you, his wife does not stay in the same city or country as he.
So they had to send his cubs back to his wife and I saw a video where she was laying curses on people who caused his death.
She was like, people that killed him.
And yes, I agree with her.
Please, anything she said, it should happen because these same people that caused this man’s death, they have been warned, they have spoken to them, they have penalised them, they have punished them and they are still doing the same rubbish.
But anyways, when they posted in the group, people were talking and we were like, is it that the wife does not know what the husband does?
Because this man will use every possible space, time, every possible opportunity, that’s the word, to terrorise somebody with courtesy.
He would want to take money from you with courtesy, threatening you with courtesy, I’ll call my boys for you, I’ll call men for you, men will fall out because of you.
And sometimes he’ll be oppressing people who are not in this same brotherhood or who are not courteous as well.
And people were like, he has done things like this, things that have led people to depression, things that have possibly led people to their deaths, even if not immediately.
And you’re placing curses on him.
Are you telling me you’re not aware of what your husband does to other people or rather what he did to other people?
I mean, he’s so rest in peace now because you’re talking about him in the past tense.
So, I don’t know.
Please, whatever you do, just try your best that you don’t use what you have or don’t use anything to hurt someone else.
Because if you shoot gun to kill somebody, man, you might die by gun or it might not even be the gun itself, it might be bullet gun, you eat it, you will not know.
Let me just be telling you.
So please, be careful of how you treat people with whatever power you think you have.
Hello, guys.
I just want to tell a little bit story about myself and some things that I’ve been through and I can say I also learned from it.
Some years back, I actually landed a friend.
Should I say, okay, I actually helped a friend to get some loan, you know, and I shorted for that loan.
I was, yes, because of the way we are close.
So, fast forward, the due date of repayment of the loan has actually reached.
My friend was nowhere to be found.
Like, we looked for him, we couldn’t see him.
Now, the company, the people, the company that owns the money, you know, have to get me to pay the money.
And the interest on this money was so massive, so massive.
So, I started paying little by little.
That incident actually got to me and, you know, I was dropped.
I was dropped by my company then that I was working with.
So, I had to go to level one because of the genuine help that I actually rendered.
So, lesson learned.
Lesson learned right now, no, I’m no longer short.
I can’t do that for 100%.
Again, that is lesson learned.
It’s actually assured me that in all you do while living on the streets, make sure your interest is protected because the world is not actually predictable.
You can be the right best apple.
Like, the best apple on somebody will still decide that he’s going for grapes or tangerine or orange.
You’re the best.
You’re the right best apple.
So, whatever you do, just put yourself first.
Hope I didn’t bore you with this story.
Thanks.
Hi.
I have a short story to tell and I’ll title it from setback to success.
So, I’ll start by saying I’m one person who doesn’t put too much effort into doing anything, yet I get it done.
What that means is I don’t get to, you know, struggle or do too much, you know, but I get what I want and it happens.
You can call it grace, you can call it favour, it just happens.
And it has followed me all my life, even with little things.
I opened to, you know, my adulthood and in academics as well.
So, I don’t get to read too much.
I don’t read from front to back cover, but when I want to read, I read and guess what, during exam time, you know, the exam questions happen to be places that I read.
You can call it, like I said, you can call that grace.
So, it’s just been what my life had been like.
I’ve been somewhat graceful or favoured or anything you want to call it.
So, I was overly confident.
I mean, it added to my confidence, you know.
Now, it happened that in the final years of my stay in the university, when I needed this grace and favour or whatever, you know, it wasn’t like that.
Not that I didn’t know what to, not like I didn’t know what to do in exam or what to write.
It just happened that at that period, I had two big projects and I felt somehow that, okay, it’s not me again.
I can do this.
I can carry these two projects.
I’ll still read my books and definitely I’ll pass.
And it happened, it didn’t happen the way I expected it to, you know.
Things changed around in the department and I got affected in some way and I didn’t even get to, like, you know, leave with my mates, graduate with my mates.
So, it put me down.
It crushed me because it has never happened to me.
I’ve never been, you know, in such situation before.
My world crashed and for the first time, I considered suicide.
Now, I’m trying to wrap this up because this is another detail and I’m just trying to avoid saying too much because I don’t have all the time.
You know, I thought that was the end of the world and all of that.
Well, God knew what He was doing because I eventually picked myself up, did what I had to do and I, you know, passed.
And it didn’t, like I said, it didn’t happen the way I thought it would but in the end, I’ll tell you for the fact that everything was planned out very well by God and looking at me now, I got, I got, I didn’t just pass, you know, I passed really well and I’ve grown in my area of specialisation up until the fact that I’m currently in the UK and I’m still succeeding.
So, I sat for a professional exam in my area of specialisation.
This area that had failed me before and I made the like a top top results like smashing results and I’m currently practising in the UK as well.
So, what I’m saying is that God is, is, I’m a believer.
So, God is faithful.
He doesn’t do things the way we expect Him to but in the end, He still does it in His way and He makes it glorious.
Now also, I would say God with hard work is equal to success.
So, what that means, what that taught me was that things doesn’t always have to go your way but then when it does, when it, when it, when it doesn’t go your way, it doesn’t mean it wouldn’t turn out good in the end.
When things also, when things with life throws you lemons, you make lemonades.
What means you dust yourself up and you pick yourself up and then you do better, you work hard, you, you, you, you, you push harder.
That’s, that’s what I learned because if I had just stayed back, stayed down, you know, you know, gnashing my teeth or, you know, beating myself up or even had killed myself, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
So, I always look at the positive side of things, ignore what people say or what would people say and just forge ahead.
That’s, that’s it.